Oh how I love thee, let me count the ways. I love you for the awareness you bring to my mind, the movement you bring to my heart and the tears that you can bring to my eyes. On my worst of days, you are there. On my best of days, you are there. There is no escaping you, as you are always by my side.
Imagine if we took our emotions and thanked them on the daily rather than trying to run and hide from them? Or better yet, then being angry with them and having some really bad things to say about them. Have you ever noticed when you sit and focus on something, that is all that you see? So in the midst of anxiety, when we sit and just focus on the out of control feeling, what happens? Our heart races more and panic continues to ensue. We immediately go into this fight or flight mode and our body releases cortisol. What would happen if we took our emotional hat off for a moment. Think of Joy or Sadness from the movie “Inside Out”, what if we took these players and set them on the sidelines while we allowed our rational mind to set in for a moment. What would our anxiety, anger, sadness, frustration look like then? What if we took their names off their jerseys while we were at it. And instead looked at them for what they were. A player in the game that can be sidelined at any moment.
I know that this can sound much easier than actually putting it to use, but what if we begin slowly. What if we begin with a moment of, “Hey, I recognize you”, first? What if, we then moved on to sitting back, breathing, and saying to this emotion, “I’m not going to let you suit up today”. What if, we used our arsenal of appreciation and awareness to calm these players down?
I was in the midst of an onset of heightened emotions the other night. I have a lot on my plate right now, but it’s how I love to live. I am the person who is always wanting to “do” something. It is my personality and I have learned to embrace it, and now, I actually use it to my dream building advantage. But lately, the old anxious and uneasy feelings I used to get, try to creep back in. Luckily, I have the appreciation and awareness to recognize them, to breathe when I feel it coming, and to oil up as needed. (I know, it sounds crazy, but in researching my oils, I found that they are more than just “good smelling” things.) I am calmed quite easily these days, and I know that these emotions are simply my ego trying to tell me that I’m not good enough, doing enough, or equal enough. This is a story I quickly hush. We are ALL worthy of living a life that feels good. No matter where I am in my life, it is perfect and as the Universe had planned. You see, when I fall into my heavy emotions, is exactly when I fall out of my faith and trust. I stop trusting that I am being supported. I stop trusting that life is moving at the pace God and the Universe intended for me. I stop having faith that everything will be ok. Well guess what me? I AM ALWAYS OK!
I decided to step back into my faith and trust. I decided to take the emotion hat off and look at them for what they were. Just that, an emotion. One that was trying to gently guide me to be kind to myself. One that was gently trying to show me that I needed to slow down and BREATHE! One that was trying to tell me that “Hey, you really are ok”. One that was trying to get me to fall INTO my faith! Sometimes we are too busy running to where we want to go, that we skip what is good. Well, this is where I have allowed my emotions to fill me in. They always brings me back to where I am supposed to be. Aware that life is ok. That I am OK! That I need to listen to and respect what it is they are trying to show me.
Our emotions are here to show us our way. If we didn’t have them, how would we feel love? Joy? Sadness? Things so exhilarating that words can’t even describe them??? And yes, the icky times too. That is just life balancing it all out. For if we have never felt heartbreak, how would we know true love? If we have never felt complete despair how would we know ecstasy? If we have never felt sadness, how would we ever know the true heights of joy?
When times are feeling yucky, allow a moment to be. Allow the emotions to show themselves. Then, take deep breaths (preferably with some Vetiver, Stress Away, Peace and Calming, Frankincense, Citrus Fresh or Lavender) and allow the emotions to be. What are they trying to show you? Where in your life can you sit and review it for a moment? Do you need to take better care of yourself by making sure that you are LOVING you? Do you need to sleep more? Eat better? Change relationships around you? What are these emotions that can feel so scary, really trying to do? Rather than sitting in the dark with them, shine a light on them. Let them have the stage for a moment. Then, take back your personal power, thank them for the message and fall back into faith.
You will be caught.
If you feel alone, know that you are not. We all have emotions, it’s what makes us human. I am here to be an ear. To help, to listen, and to help empower you to live a life that feels good. You deserve it.
From my <3 and hO’Me to yours,
(If you ever feel as though you are going to harm yourself, please seek professional treatment, call 911 or the suicide prevention hotline 1-800-273-8255)
Mary O'Meara -